From time to time I peruse my referring stats to see where my blog visitors are coming from. (There has been a LOT of traffic from Germany lately for reasons I cannot begin to fathom. My books aren't out there yet, and I'm pretty sure I haven't starred in any amateur German online porn. In any event, Wilkommen!) Anyway, I saw a new link I hadn't noticed before and followed it, and this is what I found in a livejournal entry: So the woman who wrote my two favorite books from this year has a blog, and there's something kind of weird but very endearing about reading the details of an author's personal life. She blogs about food and clothes and history, and it's really an engaging and fun read.
I'm not including the exact link because, honestly, I don't know how, and even if I did, you'd just get referred back here and it would turn into some weird Mobius strip of a post. Anyway, the thought that occurred to me when I read this--besides being incredibly happy that I wrote someone's TWO favorite books this year--was that it's weird from this end too. I don't always know what to write about when I come here. I don't always know what your expectations will be, and I'm pretty sure it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be able to meet them anyway. (One of the first things I learned about being a published writer is that it is impossible to please readers unless you please yourself first. And even then, it's still a crapshoot if they will be happy.)
I know some people would like this blog to be firmly restricted to writing. Um, no. My life is not firmly restricted to writing. I don't know how to compartmentalize, you see. Everything--family, work, friends--is kind of mixed up in a nice, spicy bouillabaisse and I like it that way. Besides, predictability is DULL. I don't think we would have very much fun together if you knew what to expect every day. And just between us, I don' t actually have THAT much to say on the subject of writing. It's like magic. I love the romance of the old-style magicians--Devant and Maskelyne. And I love not knowing how a conjuring trick is done. Writing is a conjuring trick of the first order, and I don't particularly like lifting the curtain to let you see the wires. (And if I'm REALLY honest, I don' t always peek behind the curtain myself.)
So I blog about the occasional serious thing and lots of silly and inconsequential things, because that is me in a nutshell. I am just as happy discussing the latest variation on the Dior gaucho bag as I am the role of Jane Austen in post-Enlightenment feminism. (Plus, I think it gives encouragement to aspiring writers to see that those of us who have gotten published aren't any different. We don't sit in ivory towers composing impressive prose and only talking to each other. I mean, there may be SOME writers who do that, but I don't know any, and I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want to. No, I'm much more concerned about WHY I cannot find a decent white pencil skirt this summer--seriously, people, I'm not asking for the earth here--and how to curb Emma the Yellow Wonder Dog's occasional flatulence.)
But it is odd to write these posts and never know exactly who is reading them and what they think. And because of that uncertainty, I censor. I don't publish pictures of my daughter's face or her name, or my husband's for that matter. (Emma is on her own.) I don't discuss politics or religion, not because I fear intelligent debate, but because I don't like to exclude people from here and I like this little corner of the internet to be a pleasant place. And I try to mind my manners and not complain about too much--partly because I don't want to seem like an ungrateful ass and partly because I believe gratitude is one of the guiding principles of a successful and prosperous and happy life.
So the blog is me, the real me, just at about 80%. And if you find it weird and endearing, then it's pretty accurate because so am I. But know that even though I started to blog because it was supposed to be a useful tool for "getting my name out there", I have come to enjoy it and you. And if I didn't sit down and send these little nonsense poems out into the universe, I would miss it.